Why do mothers get the blame

Why do mothers get the blame
in ways that fathers don’t?
Perhaps because in mothering,
we learn to carry loads.
Our shoulders have been broadened,
our hearts made wide and deep,
to carry children’s hurtings;
to share their pain and grief.
Why do mothers get the blame
in ways that fathers don’t?
Perhaps because in mothering,
we choose to carry loads.

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4 Responses to Why do mothers get the blame

  1. julespaige says:

    I think this concept of mother’s carrying the load of blame is very much a generational thing that might be shifting. But more than not, without father, children are raise by mother who is the only source to love completely as well as abandon freely when the ‘pot is not right’ (or full enough -though some mothers I do believe are clever, brave and super strong).

    • rosross says:

      I am not so sure Jules. There is no doubt fathers have begun to play a more active role but the most powerful archetype at work in the world and in us is that of the mother figure. We conflate our literal mothers and fathers with the archetypes but the reality is that it is the mother who brings us to birth and is therefore the emotional source and as war sadly reveals still,commonly, the last words on most people’s lips is mother.

      • julespaige says:

        Intersting. I don’t think that word would be on my lips. I thnk I would be thinking of my husband. But I can see how all the soilders of war, many unmarried, would say. ‘mother’.

  2. rosross says:

    I suppose none of us know. Yes, certainly soldiers but also something reported by those nursing the dying. It’s funny really how they turned God into a Man when the most logical ‘image’ is female, the mother, the source. Which of course was the original religion before patriarchy came to power. And perhaps will be again. 🙂

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